How To Become A Genuine Person

You will create habits that will have a profound impact on every person you encounter. Learn to build these unique habits that can reflect energy and confidence towards others.

1. Do not try to make people like you.

You are who you are. Some people will like you and some won’t, and you have to be okay with that. Caring about wether people will like you or not cannot get in the way of you doing the right thing. You have to be willing to make unpopular decisions and to take unpopular positions if that’s what needs to be done.

Don’t be desperate for attention and don’t try to show off. When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive to and interested in what you have to say than if you try to show that you’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than what or how many people you know.

2. Do not pass judgment.

Be open-minded at all times, this will make you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.

Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, as approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require you to believe what they believe or condone their behavior; it simply means you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick. Only then can you let them be who they are.

3. Forge your own path.

Don’t obtain a sense of pleasure or satisfaction from the opinions of others. This will free you to focus and follow your own path. Know who you are and don’t pretend to be anyone else. Your direction comes from within, from your own principles and values. Do what you believe is the right thing, and don’t be affected by the fact that somebody might not like it.

4. Be generous.

We’ve all worked with people who constantly hold something back, whether it’s knowledge or resources. They act as if they’re afraid you’ll outshine them if they give you access to everything you need to do your job. Be generous with whom you know, what you know, and the resources you have. You’ll want your acquaintances to do well because you are a team player and you are confident enough to never worry that their success might make you look bad. In fact, believe that their success is your success.

5. Treat everyone with respect.

Whether interacting with your biggest clients or servers taking your drink orders, you have to be polite and respectful. Understand that no matter how nice you are to the people you have lunch with, it’s all for naught if those people witness you behaving badly toward others. Treat everyone with respect because you believe they are no better than anyone else.

6. Do not get motivated by material things.

You don’t need shiny, fancy stuff to feel good. It’s not that you think it’s wrong to go out and buy the latest and greatest items to show off your status; you just don’t need to do this to be happy. Your happiness comes from within, as well as from the simpler pleasures-such as friends, family, and a sense of purpose-that make life rich.

7. Be trustworthy.

People will gravitate towards you because they know they can trust you. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who that person really is and how he or she really feels. You have to mean what you say, and if you make a commitment, keep it. Never say to yourself, “Oh, I just said that to make the meeting end faster.” People have to know that if you say something, it’s because you believe it to be true.

8. Be thick-skinned.

Have a strong enough sense of self that you wont go around seeing offense that isn’t there. If somebody criticizes one of your ideas, don’t treat this as a personal attack. There’s no need for you to jump to conclusions or feel insulted. Be able to objectively evaluate negative and constructive feedback, accept what works, put it into practice, and leave the rest of it behind without developing hard feelings.

9. Put away your phone.

A mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone can create a distraction. When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. You will find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them. When you robotically approach people with small talk and are tethered to your phone, this puts their brains on autopilot and prevents them from having any real affinity for you. Create a connection and find depth even in short, everyday conversations. Your interest in other people will make it easy for you to ask good questions and relate the information you received to other important events of the speaker’s life.

10. Don’t be driven by ego.

Don’t make decisions based on your ego because you don’t need the admiration of others to feel good about yourself. Likewise, don’t seek the limelight or try to take credit for other people’s accomplishments. Simply do what needs to be done without saying, “Hey, look at me!”

11. Don’t be a hypocrite.

Practice what you preach. Don’t tell people to do one thing and then do the opposite yourself. That’s largely owing to your self-awareness. Many hypocrites don’t even recognize their mistakes. They’re blind to their own weaknesses. You, on the other hand, will fix your own problems first.

12. Don’t brag.

We’ve all worked with people who can’t stop talking about themselves and their accomplishments. Have you ever wondered why? They boast and brag because they’re insecure and worried that if they don’t point out their accomplishments, no one will notice. You don’t need to brag. You’re confident in your accomplishments and you realize that when you truly do something that matters, it stands on its own merits, regardless of how many people notice or appreciate it.

Bringing It All Together

Know who you are. Be confident enough to be comfortable in your own skin. Be firmly grounded in reality, and be truly present in each moment.